Lying about Lube

Monday May 22, 2017

I know you’re probably getting sick of me picking apart Gwyneth Paltrow’s site, Goop, but I just have to do it again. I was reading some information today about lubricants and that led me back to Gwyneth and her terrible page on the topic. Lubes are something that people get very confused about because there’s a lot of really bad information floating around out there. I thought it was important to clarify some of the things on this page, which is, sadly, filled with lies. It’s a question and answer with Dr. Maggie Ney who is not a medical doctor but rather a naturopathic doctor. She claims to be an expert in hormones but she sure doesn’t know anything about lube. Here’s are the blatant lies in this piece.


Lie #1 – The FDA does not regulate what goes into lubes

Thinking You Are Addicted to Porn is Far More Damaging than Porn Itself

Saturday May 20, 2017
Last week, I read this article by David Ley, that had me almost jumping out of my chair for joy.  It seems that finally somebody decided to study not the harm that pornography addiction causes, but the harm that thinking you are addicted to pornography causes.

'Hot Girls Wanted:Turned On" Turned Me Off

Tuesday May 9, 2017

I saw the documentary  Hot Girls Wanted when it came to Netflix about a year ago. I do believe that there are lot of very troublesome and concerning things that happen in some sectors of the porn industry and I think it would be interesting to make a documentary that actually looks at that honestly and offers some insight and options for action.  Hot Girls Wanted is not that documentary.  It is extremely sex negative.  It makes sweeping generalizations about porn after speaking to only one small group involved in creating extremely misogynistic content for just a couple of producers. 

So when I heard that Netflix had made a series out of the doc, I had no interest in watching it.  That was, until I started reading criticism from people who had been featured in the documentary. 

A Brief History of Masturbation

Saturday April 29, 2017

Masturbation is normal, healthy, and universal, but it hasn't always been seen that way.  Throughout history, the way we look at this basic human activity has changed a lot. Here, in honor of Masturbation Month, coming soon (pun intneded) are some of the highlights, and lowlights, in masturbation history.  

  • ancient Egypt - creation myths told the story of the Sun God Amun masturbating and creating the first two human beings
  • 3rd century B.C. - a greek comic dialogue described two women talking about the virtues of their dildos
  • 1712 - an anonymous doctor publishes 'The Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution and all its Frightful Circumstances' outlining the purported dangers of masturbation - this tract becomes popular and contributes greatly to the notion that masturbation is wrong
  • 1856 - 1932 - The U.S. Patent office issues patents for 33 anti-masturbation devices including everything from spiked penis rings, drugs, chastity belts, and rough mittens that were bound around the hands.
  • 1894 - John Harvey Kellogg invents corn flakes.  Along with other foods, corn flakes was part of a bland diet that Kellogg promoted for lowering sexual excess - including masturbation.
  • 1948 - Kinsey publishes 'Sexual Behavior in the Human Male'.  This unprecedented survey of thousands of men showed that, far from an aberration, masturbation is common.  His 'Sexual Behavior in the Human Female'  published in 1953 reported similar results in his surveys of women.
  • 1977 - Joani Blank opens Good Vibrations, the first sex toy shop run by women for women.  She recognized the need for women to have a place to discuss and buy self-pleasure devices openly and comfortably.
  • 1986 - Betty Dodson's 'Sex for One' is published, declaring masturbation a revolutionary act of self-love, and encouraging all women to learn to pleasure themselves
  • 1994 - U.S Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders is asked to resign after stating at a Worlds AIDS Day event that perhaps masturbation should be taught in schools.
  • 1995 - Owners of Good Vibrations and others proclaim the first ever National Masturbation Month

2017 - After studies have proven that abstinence-only sex education programs do not reduce unplanned pregnancies and STI rates, vocal minorities in both the USA and Canada continue to lobby against the discussion of masturbation and other safer sex options in schools


Don't Put Those Eggs in Your Basket: Please Don't Put That Up There - Part Four

Friday March 10, 2017

Last year about this time, I did a series of posts about ridiculous things people were advising others to put in their vaginas - from steam, cannabis laced tampons, to teeny tiny tea bags.  It seemed like a trend to find new and exciting, and potentially very unsanitary and dangerous, things to put inside you.

I'd like to say this trend has died down but it hasn't.  It seems we just can't get away from people who want to tell us that our vaginas are a problem and they have a solution.

What's the latest thing you're supposed to stuff up inside you?  Jade eggs.